New Year Resolutions: How To Find Happiness

Hey, so recently I’ve been doing all the stuff I do every end of the year (a little late I know but I was traveling since christmas time ended so) and I realized that I change… A lot, for example, last year i was saying that my life was perfect and well that actually used to work for me, but then i realized those people didn’t really like me and I started feeling like shit again. That didn’t work out, I know, but nowadays I just gave myself the right to feel like shit and to judge people and to be negative like I used to be when i first cut myself and all those things people don’t want to do but do anyway.

I figured out that, by always using the excuse that “it’s okay not to be okay” i was making myself accommodated with being negative. I’m not saying you’re wrong if you're sad, I’m just saying you should never, never, be fine with it, like not wanting to change your life drastically just so you could get happier.

There are two ways of doing that, in my opinion. The first one, the easiest one i guess, is not thinking, as Clarice Lispector once said, happiness is pretty much the same as ignorance (obviously not with these words), basically, if you don’t think about why people do the things they do to you and why they tell you they can’t go out but then you see a photo of them with another friend who had old you she was traveling, you’ll never really get upset just live life for the moment and don’t overthink stuff. And also don’t get angry about stuff that’s “none of your business” such as poverty or hunger.

The second option, my favorite one, is Thinking too much about community and too little about yourself. It’s not like you can’t get nervous about the outfit you’re gonna wear to that party your crush is gonna be at, or that you can’t get upset sometimes because you can’t get your cat eye right. It’s just that, instead of thinking you suck or that your life sucks because of these little things, you should realize how good your life is. You’re grounded for two weeks because you got a bad grade? Well some people don’t even have parents so be thankful for the ones you have. 

  Basically what I’m trying to say is: be positive, maybe by ignoring somethings, maybe by understanding that life is a bigger concept than what you see on a daily basis. Be grateful for what you have, and acknowledge the opportunities and benefits you have because not everyone can get those, so understand that you’re already very very lucky, and all you have, well it’s not just luck, you earned it all. If you’re nervous because you don’t how a trip to England will be like with a cousin that doesn’t usually treat you well, stop thinking about that and start thinking about how great your parents are by giving you that as a birthday gift.

As a final note, just be you and be happy with who you are and understand all you have and that life doesn’t have to be always so sad because, on the long run. you’ll be fine, it’ll all always turn out to be ok.